Ever been in the gym and looked around at the other people and wondered what motivates them to be there? I do, regularly. Maybe it’s a little judgmental, but sometimes I even tell myself that my reason for being there is more important than their’s. Sometimes, even that thought is motivation for me. A mini competition that goes on inside my head to push myself harder in that workout. Now, that might sound petty, selfish and shallow (kinda is), and that’s why I usually don’t share that with others.

The reason I even bring it up is because the other day in the gym I had that same thought. Comparing another gym patron to me and giving myself an extra pat on the back for how much harder I was training than he was. In that moment, yeah it felt kinda good. Finishing the workout with a burnout core set, I carried that feeling of accomplishment all the way home.

I sat down with my post workout lunch and pulled up my Facebook. Literally, this was the first post I saw.

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Let’s just say it hit home and that feeling of accomplishment wasn’t as strong.

I started rethinking my own motivations and what was the driving force behind my own goals and ambitions. Thinking back to the post, was I guilty of the exact opposite of each of those suggestions at times? Yup.

It’s been with me ever since and something I’ve decided to work on in my own life. The message applies to all aspects of life, not just the gym. It’s a statement about the world we live in today and our roles in creating a world based on positive experiences and growth and not shallow comparisons that make us feel good.

Ever heard/seen this?

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If you haven’t, consider this your wake up call. I’ve seen it a thousand times and still need a refresher.

We all have those that we look up to or that motivate us in our own way. But have you ever thought people look up to you? They do. Everywhere you go, you make an impression on people, whether you realize it or not. In a world with so much turmoil and negativity, is it really that hard to spread a little positive?

 

I realized that I was letting my own insecurities get the best of me. I was using other’s as motivation in a negative way because I thought I needed reassurance that I was working hard. A quick Google, and I found this,

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Again, it hit home in a very personal way. I’ve always been a comparison guy. Coming from the sports world, comparisons are everywhere. This guy runs faster than this guy. He is stronger than I am. I’m better at catching than him.

That’s not an excuse, it’s just the reality of sports at a high level. It is what it is. But, you don’t have to live your life that way. We all have the choice to make our lives what we envision, and I promise, putting people down (even in your own mind) isn’t the way to achieve.

Be warned, it’s not easy. Every time you open Instagram or Facebook or turn on the TV, you’ll be faced with content that begs for comparison. He’s doing this or she’s doing that, what does that have to do with you? Nada.

When it all boils down, we’re all just a grain of sand in the universe. Don’t worry about what others think of you and don’t pass judgement on others to lift yourself up. The man/woman in the mirror is the only person you should compare yourself too. And your only goal should be to be a better person than you were yesterday. Be a giver. Lift someone else up and appreciate the people that look up to you.

I’ll leave you with one last parting thought.

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It’s not that hard, but sometimes you need a reminder. Grind to be a good person.

Grind On!

TGDS